This is the tribute I gave to my grandfather at his funeral. I was talking to someone the other day about it and said I thought I might post it here to share with friends who were not at the funeral. She encouraged me to do so. I had to re-write a few things because I was able to write differently when I was speaking than I needed to for folks to read it.
I was
blessed to have Pop-Pop all to myself for many years before my siblings and
cousins were born. Some of those years
were even spent living with my grandparents, so I was able to spend even more
time with him, which was just fine with me!
He was more than just a grandfather to me, he was a dad before God
blessed me with one. Both pop-pop and
grandma have been huge influences in my life.
I was born in a very tumultuous time in our country… Into a situation
that was not the best of circumstances… As
always, God was in control. He gave me a
grandfather who loved me with all his heart.
It took a bit for him to warm up to me, but he did!
My
grandfather never talked about my color.
He accepted me as his grandchild in a time where bi-racial children were
not something accepted. I say this
because it speaks to my Pop-pop’s character.
He could have rejected me. I’d
like to think that is was because I was such a cute baby, but it wasn’t. I was his family. He accepted me as that and never treated me
as less.
He was so
patient with me. I would follow him
everywhere. If he was fixing something,
I wanted to fix it too, or at least try… I would try to talk like him, even walk like
him. He had a way of walking where his
head was tilted a bit. I remember
walking behind him, trying to do the same thing. I learned how to drive a riding lawnmower
because when I was little, he used to let me sit on his lap while he was
cutting the grass. He used to make sure
he parked his car in his garage every night.
Sometimes, he would let me sit on his lap and steer the car into the
garage. I really thought I was doing
something. Looking back, he was doing
most of the steering. He always had his
hand on the bottom of the steering wheel.
He kind of helped guide me through life that way at times. I would ask him things, he would gently show
me the way to do it.
He taught me
how to tie my shoes, ride a bike, and even do maintenance on cars. One year he found a bike in the garbage, if I
remember right. He fixed that bike up
and gave it to me for Christmas. That
was a great gift, not just because it was my first bike. It was great because he took the time to fix it and spruce it up as a gift for me!
As I got
older, our relationship just got better.
Even though there were more grandchildren to share his love, I never
felt less important or that there was less time for me. I was talking to a friend the other day about
Pop. She and I used to go over to their
house after I was driving. She said, “I
always loved the stories your grandfather would tell about growing up. They always made me laugh.” He just had that way with people. They just seemed to love him.
He would
just love on all of us. He would bounce
my siblings and cousins as babies on his leg.
He would take little ones for walks.
Witness the boys getting involved in all kinds of shenanigans, which
were probably brought on by some story he had told them. Of course, it didn’t help that you would have
full access to his shop in the basement and the many tools to help in those
plans.
Family was
always important to Pop-Pop. We would
spend holidays together, have cookouts in the summer at their house. When I got married and spent time away from
home, those cookouts were some of the things I missed most. I remember one Thanksgiving meal when, as we
were sitting down, he said, “Make sure you put the mashed potatoes in front of
Staci. You know how much she loves them.”
I just giggled. The man knew me.
I remember
telling the family when Will and I found out we were going to have our first
child. It was Easter and we were all
sitting around the table in the dining room.
Little did I know that he and I would both be in the hospital at the
same time when Jared was born. Pop-pop
was in the hospital with a hematoma that pushed on his brain and paralyzed him
on one side for a short time. I remember
coming up to visit him when Jared was a little over a month old. Watching Pop holding Jared, and me being so
thankful that he was still here.
My kids have
so many great memories of their great grandfather. Jared said he will always remember pop-pop
sneaking cookies. He said even when he
couldn’t move that well, he could somehow get in the kitchen and get some cookies. Pop-pop always had 2 liter sodas in the
basement for family events, or if you were over helping with something, he
would give you a glass of soda for refreshment.
Jeanelle told me this story about pop-pop. She said she had a bottle of juice.
She had finished it and brought it in the kitchen to throw away. Pop-pop was sitting at the table with a 2
liter bottle of root beer and motioned for Jeanelle to come over. She said he told her to put the bottle up and
he commenced to fill the bottle with root beer.
He said, “Here ya go” and sent Jeanelle off. I started laughing when she told me this,
then thought, why is this the first time I am hearing this??? But, that was pop. Always wanting us to have a cookie, or soda,
or some dessert, or Manishevitz and fruitcake at Christmas and New Year once
you were old enough. Or, if you got to
the house at the right time, wanting you to join them with in a meal.
I could go
on and on, but I would just say- ask any of us.
We have such great memories. The
last thing, I would want you to know about my grandfather, is the greatest gift
he left me with. I grew up watching my
grandfather faithfully go to church every week.
He would often go with my Aunt Gertie on Saturday nights. It was important to him. After he moved down here, he found a parish
to attend and he went until he couldn’t drive anymore. Sometimes family members would take him. My mom has told me stories of them going
through confirmation class as kids. God
was an important part in my grandfather’s life.
I know my grandfather was saved by the blood of Jesus. By sacrifice that Jesus made on the cross to
save us. I know that as the Bible says
in Romans 10:8-10
8 But what
does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is,
the word of faith that we proclaim); 9 because, if you confess with your mouth
that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead,
you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes and is justified, and
with the mouth one confesses and is saved.
So, although
I am sad today, I also can rejoice in the fact that I will see Pop-Pop again in
heaven. I know he is in the presence of
the Lord. That he has joined in “the
great cloud of witnesses” as it says in Hebrews 12.
Everyone
talks about legacy and my Pop-pop’s greatest legacy in me is this: my relationship
with Christ. His taking time for church
and God made me see at a young age that there was something important about
it. Today that legacy is a huge part of
my identity. It is what helps me be a
better wife, mom, sister, friend… So I
end with this, what part of pop’s legacy is in you? What will people see in you that was great
about him?